Do You Hear What I’m Trying To Say?

It’s probably just me but, I find that, at times, what I think I’m saying to someone is not what they are hearing.  I take full responsibility for the miscommunication and any misunderstanding that results.  I’m coming from a set of perceptions and experiences based on the life I’ve lived.  The people I’m talking to often come from a very different set of experiences that cause their perceptions to be very different than mine.  Our paradigms are different so, when we are talking about a particular subject, a word or string of words may have a very different meaning to each of us.

Imagine how the horse feels!  The young horse is just getting exposed to the confusing world of humans.  The older horse comes with a set of experiences that make the human a good thing or bad thing.  Both horses are trying to hear what we are saying and respond in a way that makes them feel okay.  Humans have a tendency to do too much which activates a defense mechanism in the horse.  We also ask the horse to do things that are unnatural to them in their world but, that are necessary for them to thrive in ours.  Given all of that, it’s amazing our horses hear anything we are trying to say to them.

We’ve helped several horses over the past couple of months that were having trouble coping with the horse trailer.  The horse trailer is one of the most unnatural places for a horse to want to go.  Yet, if we offer them a chance to follow us into one, often times they will go and stay and cope.  When they don’t, things can get bad very quickly.  I think that putting a horse into a trailer is one of the best places to test how good our feel, timing and balance really are with that particular horse.  When we think our horse is as light and soft and willing as it can be we should try and load him in a 2 horse straight load trailer to ask him what he thinks!

Avoiding a bad experience at the horse trailer is the best way to avoid having trouble at the horse trailer.  Just like the best way to keep a horse from bucking is to never let him learn how.  If we recognize how unnatural it is for a horse to load into a trailer and do things to help him have enough confidence in us to try, we have a chance.  Sometimes it’s as simple as being aware of what bothers a particular horse and what makes him comfortable.  We will have the best chance of having our horse hear what we are trying to say if we pay attention to how he responds to the offers we make and then adjust those offers accordingly.

We were successful helping the horses we worked with get more comfortable loading and unloading into and out of the trailer.  We were also successful in helping the horse owners better understand their horses and how to help them through the rough spots that can appear with or without a trailer involved.  It’s a good day when you walk away thinking, “they actually heard what I was trying to say!”

Which End Is Up?

We’ve had the opportunity to work with some new people and horses over the past couple of weeks.  That’s always a thrill for us because not only do we have the opportunity to share some of our knowledge with someone new, we have the chance to be exposed to different ideas.  When we did a lot of day-work on neighboring cattle ranches, we saw a lot of different ways to work cattle and use horses.  It was a great way to see, in practice, ideas that might work for us.  Whether we learned what we wanted to try or not to try in our own operation, the ability to experience ideas was invaluable to our education.

Continuing to educate ourselves beyond the walls of a classroom and a formal education is one of the great things about life.  It’s a life choice.  We can either stay stuck in our ways and ideas or we can venture out beyond our comfort levels and experiment with new ideas and methods of doing things that are important to us.  Amy and I have gotten to the age and stage in life where we’ve experienced quite a bit.  We’ve found things that work well for us by doing lots of things that didn’t work as well.  It has been a blessing to be able to work with, for, and around lots of different people doing lots of different things.  Those experiences have helped us develop into who we are and what we do.

One of the endless debates in the horse community is about whether the front end or hind end of the horse is more important to control.  As our teacher and mentor Tom Dorrance used to say, “it depends”.  As in a lot of things in life, if we get too focused on one thing, other things will suffer.  Amy and I try to keep track of the whole horse; mind, body, and spirit.  By doing that we become more aware of what happening before other things happen.  We continue to develop a feel for our horse and become less mechanical.  We’ve discovered that there are times when the hindquarters are more important than the front end and times when we really need the front end to get a job done.

The more we all understand how horses see, think, and react to things, the better we can prepare ourselves and then our horse for the jobs we will do with them.  If I understand how my horse needs to move to carry my weight and do what I need done, I can help him to get balanced within his body so his feet can move how and where they need to go when they need to go.  If my horse and I fail to stay balanced in our job, we’re likely to be working against one another.  If I’ve educated my horse to the job we are doing and taught him to stay with me and stay balanced, I can let him decide what part of his body is more important for getting my thing done his way.

So, if you’re caught in the debate over front end versus hind end, don’t fret over which end is up.  Instead ask yourself if you’re considering the whole horse and the jobs you will be doing together.  Our bet is that you and your horse can find the answer together.  And, if you need some help figuring it out, we’d be happy to help!

Teacher Student

My parents were teachers so, I paid attention to what teachers did and I paid attention to what it took to become a teacher in our school system.  One of the steps in the process was to become a student teacher.  Student teachers came into our classrooms to practice what they had learned in college.  I never asked any of my student teachers how closely what they learned at college matched with what they were presented with once in a “real” classroom.  I imagine that the student teaching job exposed some student teachers to environments and attitudes they never foresaw.  That was probably one of the big incentives for having a student teacher program in the first place.

We had a chance to attend a clinic as students recently.  We try to be students of the horse everyday but, being another persons student can be both enlightening and challenging.  We don’t have a lot of ego.  We know that there are many things we do not know and many things that we know that we could do much better.  So, when we attend a clinic, we really are there to pick-up new ideas, look at something we do in a new way, and to refine our skills.  Because we both teach humans as a part of our business, we are looking for new ways to present ideas to others as well as find new things to help our horses.

I’m not a very good student.  Even when I try to listen and follow instructions, I end up doing things that cause my teacher consternation.  When I ask questions, I come across as argumentative and when I reply to questions asked of me, my answers come out all wrong.  Worse yet, when I attempt a new skill, I’ve got two left feet and six thumbs on both hands.  I’ve worked on correcting or adjusting those faults but, with little success.  Something happens to my brain and body at a clinic that I just don’t understand.  Despite all of that I feel like my horse gets better and that I come away with nuggets of information valuable to my learning journey.

The really great thing about attending a clinic is that I gain increased empathy for people that attend one of our clinics.  We’ve known for a long time that different people learn in different ways.  What we tend to forget is that different people have different reactions to the clinic setting itself.  Some people are comfortable in that setting and will say and do all the right things.  Others are more like me, saying and doing some good things and some not so good things.  What’s important for me to realize is….we wouldn’t be attending if we didn’t want to learn something.  Sometimes we take a chance and go to a clinic knowing nothing of the teacher nor the way they will present their information.  Other times we know the teacher, know how they present, and have an idea of what we may take away from our experience. Either way, we are there to learn.

As a teacher to humans about horses and cattle I need to remember that what works for me doesn’t always work for the next person.  I see and feel things differently than the next person.  I’ve worked at developing ways of interacting with my horse and with my horse on cattle that work for me.  I shouldn’t expect that those things will work for my students.  What’s important is developing an awareness of what you want from yourself and your horse and then developing a feel for when those things take place.  What you do to get there is not nearly as important as getting there in such a way that you and your horse are comfortable and relaxed and enjoying the learning process!  That’s what I learned from being a student this time.  I pray it makes me a better teacher.

Mowing The Grass

I don’t know about you but, as happy as we are for the rain, I sure got way behind on my yard work! I was mowing the grass around the house and got to thinking about Ray Hunt talking about a wheel barrow. Stay with me now! I was thinking about Ray talking about riding horses being like pushing a wheelbarrow because we use that example to help people understand how the horse works when operating upright and balanced. The wheelbarrow is the front of the horse and our legs are the rear of the horse. If our wheelbarrow has a load in it and we drop our shoulder to make a turn, we’re likely to lose our load. If we keep our shoulders square and our back relaxed and move our feet like we’d expect the rear feet of our horse to move, our wheelbarrow goes where we want it to go and with it’s load intact!

The same principle applies to pushing the lawn mower back and forth in the yard. As I went back and forth, I was reminded of riding a serpentine pattern where the hindquarters of my horse reached further than his front quarters in the turn. With my lawn mower I was trying to turn 180 degrees onto a new line and then push straight along a line parallel to the old line. When riding my horse in the serpentine pattern if I look around the corner of my turn for my new line, keep my shoulders square and my back relaxed, the rest of my body will help my horse find our new line. We can then stride ahead with straightness on our new line.

The lesson for all of us trying to improve our riding habits and our communication with our horse is to relax, look where we’re going, and allow what our body does naturally be the first thing our horse feels when we’re making a change in what we’re doing or where we’re going. We can always add more aids to help our horse but, it’s amazing how little we can do and how much our horse feels us change. It’s when we get braced and contorted that we have trouble getting through to our horses. Our advice….relax and allow your wheelbarrow or lawnmower to remind you how your horse likes to work!

Good Fences

We’ve been spending quite a bit of time building new fence around our place. So, I got to thinking about the old saying, “good fences make good neighbors” and wondered if good fences make good horses too? We build fence to keep our livestock or pets on our property and to keep our neighbors pets or livestock off our property. We want our fences to be sturdy enough to do that job but flexible enough to “give” a little should something hit it accidently. Because we fence large areas, we use materials that are designed to do the job, are cost effective, and are relatively easy to install.

So, how does all of that relate to horsemanship? With virtual reality being all the rage these days, if we think about our personal space as being the virtual area we want to fence, how do we build good fences so our horses know where to be? On the ground, we need our horse to respect our personal space. We can’t have them stepping on us or pushing us out of the way. We need to have a fence keeping us safe. But, this fence needs to have gates that are easy to use so that we can go to our horse to create the bond we both crave. This fence we build around ourselves causes our horse to develop respect for us so over time, the area we have fenced off can get a little smaller.

In the saddle we have more tools with which to build our fence. And, our fence tends to be less rigid and more moveable. Think about a one strand electric fence that is moved to allow livestock access to fresh grazing. We create these fences with our reins, seat, and legs. With these aids we can discourage our horse from venturing into a certain area or we can open up our fence to allow them to explore something new. With time and consistency, our horse begins to recognize our fences and respect what they represent. They know when the one strand of electric fence is “hot” and to stay off of it and they can see when that strand comes down and they are free to move into an area.

Good horsemen seem to consistently build real good virtual fences. Their horses are nice to be around because they respect the fences created by the lead rope, rein, and body of the horseman. The fences aren’t built out of harsh materials with the intention of inflicting pain. They are more like rubber band fences that allow for the give and take needed for a horse and rider to find an understanding. So maybe it’s true that good fences can make good horses! Even if they are just virtual fences.

Follow The Yellow Brick Road

We’re off to see the wizard, the wonderful wizard of Oz. Because, because, because because, because….because of the wonderful things he does! Remember that from the movie, “The Wizard of Oz”? Dorothy and her friends were off to find the wizard that would help them solve all of their problems and give them all of the answers to all of their questions about life.

Do you ever feel like you’re on that same quest? Following the yellow brick road from one clinic to another, from one clinician to another, trying to find the answers to all of your questions about horses? That’s not a bad thing. Getting information is important. Getting the right information is more important. Getting the right information that fits you and your horse is the most important! Sometimes it takes the right person saying the right thing at the right time for it to “click”.

Our experience was spending lots of time and lots of money being exposed to lots of ideas about horses and horsemanship. We listened, we learned, we experimented, we failed, we succeeded. We didn’t feel like we wanted someone to “give” us the answers. We wanted to use the information we gathered in our own setting and see what worked for us. We stayed with the things that fit our personalities and our abilities. We found that what really mattered to our horses wasn’t the techniques we used but, the feeling that came from the inside of us to the inside of our horse. As we got more sure our horses got better.

As this clinic season begins and you search for the right setting for you and your horse to get exposed to new ideas or refine some old ideas, pay special attention to what it is you want for you and your horse. Whether it’s a safe and relaxing trail ride or running a cow down the fence, the goals have to be yours. When you’re comfortable and confident your horse will be too!

Of course, we’d love to have the opportunity to work with you and your horse! Helping people find answers that fit them and their horse is one of the pure joys in our lives. We may not be the wizard you’re looking for but, we’ll always be honest about what we share with you and kind in the way we present it. Get more information about us and our clinic and lesson schedule at http://www.bridle-bit.com. We look forward to riding with you!

I Wish I Had Taken A Picture

How many times have we finished a project around the ranch and thought to ourselves, “I wish I’d taken a picture before we started”. It’s nice to see the end results but, the end result would mean all that much more if we had captured our starting point. We have our memory of what was but, that memory gets skewed by time and more recent events.

When working with horses, Tom Dorrance encouraged his students to remember and compare. Remember where you started and what you did so you can compare results. Knowing what happened before what you wanted to have happen happened and knowing what happened before what you didn’t want to have happen happened will help you decide what presentations are effective with a particular horse and which presentations you want to stow away with that horse. Remembering where you started, what you did, and what the results were allows you to develop better judgement through experience.

The other day we had a chance to work with some people and horses we hadn’t ever worked with before. The people were nice and the horses were good too. One horse in particular was the kind we like. He was smart and sensitive and not one to put up with much nonsense. He had come from a racing background but, his new job was on a cattle ranch. When we first got our hands on him he acted like he’d rather be in charge and tell us how things were going to be. His head was up, he led and pushed with his shoulder and he was tense from the tip of his nose to the bottoms of his feet. We should have taken a picture! After a little while and a little bit of offering a different feel, this horse just melted. His head came down, he accepted our leadership, and he got soft and willing. It made us feel good to be able to help him find something he was more comfortable with! Of course, we got a picture of that!

Resurrection

Yesterday, we Christians celebrated the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the tomb. He triumphed over death and in the process of crucifixion, death, and resurrection, gave us a pathway to a personal relationship with God. Without His sacrifice, our sin was in the way of that relationship.

I wonder how we can use that message and example in our horsemanship and in our lives in general. How many times have we felt that we have failed in something that we cared about. In essence we lost something. Maybe our confidence, or passion, or drive? Maybe it was a friendship or other relationship that we thought was solid until an event caused it to end abruptly? No matter what it was, no matter the cause, I wonder if part of the message of the resurrection isn’t, how do we resurrect what we lost?

Each of us will deal with that question in our own way. We need to allow ourselves to struggle through that process and find solutions that match our personality and situation. To me the important thing is that we get up each day and struggle. I believe that we find the answer that is right for us through faith that struggling will show us the doors that are closed and the door that is open. Without that struggle we wallow in a quagmire of doubt. By embracing the struggle, we find a sense of purpose. We develop a work ethic and confidence that there is an answer and we will find it! We turn the loss of something important to us into a new and important purpose. We resurrect our loss into something as good or better. Trust in your ability to go through the process. Have confidence that the answer is there to find.

Some of our horses are the same way. They have lost their confidence. Our job is to resurrect that confidence. We allow them to struggle through a process where they learn to find answers. We start with easier questions so they know they can find solutions and work toward the more difficult. We show them that we have faith in them. We show them that we have confidence that they can make it. Our faith and confidence in them will one day translate into a belief in themselves. What a great way to build a personal relationship!

Make It A Good Day!

One thing that will keep you from getting into trouble with your horse is if you “ride the horse you have today”.  When we look back at a bad day with our horses, we may discover memories of signs that, had we paid attention, could have prevented our unpleasant encounter.  Being that horseman that has good situational awareness and adjusts to what is rather than what we wish for can mean the difference between a good ride and a bad one.

A “bad day” story may sound like:  Yeah, ol’ roanie was a little hard to catch that morning….I pulled him off the best, greenest pasture we have and away from that mare he’s so fond of.  There was a little ear pinning when I cinched him up but, when I rode him 3 months ago, he was fine.  He did walk off from the tie rack with his tail swishing and a big ol’ hump in his back but, when I moved him around a little he only kicked at the cinches once or twice.  Come to think of it, he did have a big ol’ brace on that left side….not good remembrances from a convalescent bed!

A “bad day” turned into a “good day” may sound more like this:  Yeah, ol’ roanie was going to be a little hard to catch so I took my time and made sure that he was catching me before we left the pasture.  A couple of days ago I noticed he was getting pretty attached to our mare so, I moved her to another pen hoping that would help today’s ride go better.  It had been most of the winter since we last rode so, I took some extra time with the grooming.  I kept ahold of roanie so I could move him around me and my brushes hoping he’d get a feel for me again.  When I put my saddle on his back, I took a little time to rub on him and I did a double check on how things were fitting since our last ride.  I brought those cinches up easy and just tight enough to keep the saddle from rolling and then I moved him around me a little to see what he thought about things.  I noticed a brace on that left side so, I took some time to work that out and make sure that left rein was working on that left hind foot.  By the time I was ready to step on, ol’ roanie had blown two or three times and yawned.  He looked like a horse that wanted to go with me.  We had a great ride!

As we all get ready for Spring, now may be a good time to start assessing our tack, our pastures, and our horses.  Getting back into the habit of thinking about what kind of situations we want to try to create to make our riding season one of the best ever!  Looking forward to seeing all of you soon!!

The Past Is The Past

We like to remember.  We remember our first good friend, our first teacher, and our first love.  We remember the folks that have helped us along our way and the folks that have not.  We hold on to those memories.  Sometimes they are in the forefront of our thoughts, triggered by an event or a song, smell or something familiar.  Other times our memories are hidden somewhere in the depths of our minds like an old friend we lost contact with.

Horses remember too.  They remember everything!  That’s why a good start in the halter leads to an easier start under saddle and a good start under saddle leads to a more confident horse in any discipline.  Horses remember how things feel.  They also remember being scared from a bad experience,  over confinement, or from the over use of force.  They remember how to fight when their flight response is taken away from them.

The good news is, most horses are very forgiving.  We know from working with hundreds of horses that have had less than a perfect life.  When these horses are offered something that feels good to them, something they understand, they find a way to bury the past.  They don’t forget, they forgive and bury.  If we offer them the things they understand in a way that makes them feel safe, they will choose to react in a way that helps us do our job.

A good horseman will do their best to forget any unfavorable encounters with the horses they work with.  We need to have confidence in our ability to learn from our mistakes and create better learning environments for our horse partners.  If we applied pressure in a way that caused a blow-up, we need to think of ways to get our job done without crossing that line again.  We look for the subtle signals from our horses that allow us to expose them to things they need to know and still stay on this side of trouble.  We also need to forgive and trust that given our new knowledge, everything will work out for the best.  We need to leave the past in the past.